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Getting It All Together

Nov-29-2010 By admin

I am aware that this blog was intended to be a journal by me on my attempts to break free and find freedom from the job market. I have done little of this, really passing on what I have learned, which I am sure is still useful.

Perhaps now I should bring you up to date with the challenges I am finding in going it alone at the moment in the hope you might identify with them and perhaps might find the answers at the same time.

The challenges I am finding are based on that perennial problem – self-discipline.

I am still having challenges getting to bed on time. This hinges on several influences. Firstly, I must not work too late, also I need to avoid eating too late and I do need to find time to relax before going to bed: to wind down. A hot bath often helps I find.

Equally, I am having challenges getting up early enough in the morning. This may not come as a surprise as it is so nice to be self dependent and not have to rush around to go to a job. However, this means I need to discipline myself more to get the work done. Oh dear.

As I have mentioned before, I can avoid using alarm clocks if I allow myself eight hours sleep a night. I find I naturally sleep that long. Mind you, there are temptations to stay in bed a bit longer, especially on cold mornings like they are now and also if I have got to bed too late the night before.

For this reason I have resorted to temporarily using alarm clocks. At present I have one set to bleep at ten at night to tell me I should wind down and relax ready for bed at twelve and the radio comes on at 8.30 in the morning to get me up. This generally works well except I have just worked through the first one now and it is still too easy to lie in bed thinking in the morning!

The other problems I have probably impact on this situation so I will continue.

Once I do get up I have a set morning routine so I can do what needs to be done before I start work.

Bear in mind one of my goals is to have a healthier lifestyle too, so I need sleep and exercise. In the morning therefore I have some set exercises I work to (eventually I would like to add Tai Chi, but one stage at a time), I listen to a hypnosis tape from Paul McKenna to set my thinking for the day (and it does work, I think) and then go for a thirty minute cycle ride before having breakfast and starting work on breaking free.

Well, that’s the idea anyway! I do tend to be slow going through this routine and, again, I think it is influenced by being lax in other areas. I am realising that a weakness in one area can upset the whole routine and remove the sense of urgency once set by the need to be at a job.

In breaking free we need to provide our own discipline or someone else will do it for us – and we won’t find freedom.

In the evening, once the alarm sounds at ten I should have another session of hypnosis, relax, think and meditate and make my way to bed. But too often I work too late so I go to bed still in work mode.

The reason for this is again related to something else. I have mentioned before that I have a ‘base acceptable bottom,’ or a level of work I MUST at least complete every day. This involves publishing a post to each of my four websites each day. I am achieving this I am glad to say but sometimes at the cost of running over my ten o’clock deadline.

The other problem is I am achieving this goal but I now need to do more. Often the posts I publish on breaking free and other subjects are not original but articles or videos from other sites (with the correct backlinks and credits), which is fine but I need to post more original articles of my own. In other words, to improve the quality.

At the same time, I am not moving forward in terms of learning about the websites I use, about online advertising, about more ways of promoting my sites. Equally I am not planning ahead or writing articles for other sites to promote my own. Clearly I need to impose better time discipline as per a previous article on this site or I will not find freedom as I want.

This time discipline must ensure it does not impact on my sleep either. Obviously tiredness would impact on my ability to work at my best.

Another reason for ensuring good time discipline is I want to temporarily start twelve hour working days to move forward. Clearly this needs a better routine.

Another area I am better at now is curiously my food shopping. This may seem a strange consideration but to go shopping during the week disrupts my break free work routine. Saturday is generally my day off (but I do try and get some posts online if I can) so I have been trying to get the shopping done then. Recently I have been achieving this and so minimizing distractions from my goal of breaking free.

There are other specific areas already discussed on this site that I still need to get right – and these also impact on other areas of my drive to find freedom.

As I have missed my goals too often I have let slip the idea of giving myself rewards for work done. This is something I need to work on.

Equally I need to take my breaks at set times. I tend to panic or get too involved in an article and forget to take the break. I do have a timer on my desk which goes off after 60 minutes so I need to get in the habit of jumping up and away from my desk when this goes off so I can have a ten minute break.

As said before, the breaks help me come back to work with a fresh mind.

Not enough breaks can cause me to spend too long in bed on having lunch.

Conclusion

The truth is the whole process of breaking free to find freedom can seem overwhelming. I need to refocus on my goal, which is to break free and find freedom.

One of the advantages of writing a blog like this is I have discovered what it is I need to do. The articles on this site really have given me some ideas about how to find freedom. I hope they have helped you too.

The key is finding how to apply what I have learned regularly and consistently.

That is an interesting point and one I have not seen mentioned very often; how to fit into your daily routine all the techniques required to become self dependent and successful without becoming overwhelmed.

There, I have set out my situation in fairly frank terms. One of my priorities now is simply to earn money so I can find freedom and not return to the job market next year. Solving the above challenges should ensure my success.

I will come back to these problems in later posts on breaking free to find freedom and am interested in your comments regarding your ideas and experiences.



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Ah, when you are breaking free to find freedom, maybe it would be wise not to tell everyone what your goals are. After all, how many are still in a job? This video explains all.



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Keep Moving

Nov-25-2010 By admin


“Man who stand on hill with mouth open will wait long time
for roast duck to drop in.”

Confucius

I am learning that in doing anything in life, especially breaking free to find freedom from your job, the best action is simply action.

I don’t mean you have to just do it with no thought, although that is not necessarily a bad thing to do, but there is a process to go through to be most effective. In short to find freedom you need to learn, plan and take action. Then you start the process again immediately, learning from what you have just done.

The key is to never stop. To never stand still. Too many people breaking free fail because they stay too long at one of the stages. I know because I have made this mistake so many times.

If you find you have stalled either examine your reason why you are breaking free (your dream, if you will) or educate yourself about the obstacle you face and learn how to over come it.

Inaction is usually as result of a forgotten dream or an obstacle seeming larger than it is.

The key then to find freedom is to learn what you need to do, plan it out and just do it without hesitation. Then repeat the process. And keep repeating it until you break free and find freedom.

The saying is you are either moving forward or falling back. Do something, keep pressing forward or you will be moving back.


“Don’t be put off by all the apparent obstacles. The very act of starting the ball rolling will shift quite a few of them.”

Sir Ranulph Fiennes



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In breaking free to find freedom you may well become an entrepreneur…



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You Talked Yourself Into It

Nov-18-2010 By admin

“The soul attracts that which it secretly harbours; that which it loves, and also that which it fears; it reaches the height of its cherished aspirations; it falls to the level of its unchastened desires – and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own.”

“Every thought-seed sown or allowed to fall into the mind, and to take root there, produces its own, blossoming sooner or later into act, and bearing its own fruitage of opportunity and circumstance. Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bad fruit.”

So wrote one of my favourite authors, James Allen, in his wonderful essay ‘As A Man Thinketh’ at the start of the twentieth century.

In breaking free from the job market to find freedom, as in many other worthwhile endeavours, there is often only one person we can depend upon: ourselves. It makes sense as we are becoming so self dependent that we prepare ourselves for what is ahead.

A couple of days ago an article was posted here to The Break Free Blog on the subject of self-talk and I thought I would develop this important subject.

In another post, we discussed the influence of other people and how that influence can be negative as we attempt to break free. Unfortunately all too often we sabotage our own efforts by not believing in ourselves.

How can we overcome this?

The truth is, in simple terms, the mind is really a super complicated computer and we need to learn to reprogram ourselves.

Well, I have to say this is a subject I know a great deal about as I have previously struggled with my own negative thoughts as I attempt to find freedom. I have often programmed myself to fail.

It is worth knowing a little about the mind first. You will probably we have two parts of the mind: the conscious and the sub-conscious. The conscious mind is our logical, thinking mind where we consider options and make decisions. But it is the sub-conscious that is the more exciting.

The sub-conscious runs all our instinctive programs. It makes us breath and our hearts to beat. It is responsible for all our reflexes. And it processes all the influences, the stimuli, we experience in life. The sub-conscious records absolutely everything we think or experience in life.

The mind is thus like an iceberg; the conscious mind is the small amount we see and the sub-conscious the massive bulk we cannot see.
The fascinating thing is: the sub-conscious is a servant. It does everything the conscious mind tells it. It is the idiotic muscles man behind the gangster.

The important result of this for those of us going it alone is the sub-conscious cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is unreal.

How does this help us? If we tell the sub-conscious something enough times or emphasise something with enough emotion, it will believe it. History is full of examples of people believing something that is just not true. Often it is called ‘propaganda,’ other times ‘spin,’ and other times ‘advertising.’ These examples are clever people taking advantage of the sub-conscious minds of other people.

Towards the end of the Second World War, American soldiers were clearing the Japanese from Pacific islands. On at least one occasion, as the Allied ships approached, the crews could see the islanders throwing themselves off the cliffs in mass suicide. Obviously they were perplexed to see this as they meant the natives no harm The truth soon came out: the departing Japanese had convinced the islanders that the Americans were evil and would rape and kill them. Clearly they would be better off dead.

I could go on giving you hundreds of examples but I will just ask you one question: what do you know about lemmings? I think you will say ‘they throw themselves off cliff en masse.’ Actually no. That was a myth originating in a Disney movie when the lemmings were driven off the cliff as part of the plot. Yet we believe it.

Okay, so what? How does this help us break free?

We all talk to ourselves. Oh yes, we do. And to those of you who just thought ‘I don’t talk to myself,’ that is exactly what you just did.

All too often what we say to ourselves is negative; if anything goes wrong we say ‘you idiot, I knew I would do that,’ for example. That reinforces our program. Our minds say ‘I must be an idiot then so I will act like an idiot.’

So what we need to do is to start telling ourselves we can do it, we can break free, we can find freedom. And this is applicable whatever challenge you are facing.

Yeah, says who?

This is hardly earth-shattering news. Authors have written about self-talk and mind programming for years.

Not only James Allen, but David J. Schwartz has examined this in his amazing book ‘The Magic Of Thinking Big’.

“Thinking DOES make it so. The fellow who thinks he is inferior, regardless of what his real qualification may be, is inferior. For thinking regulates actions. If a man feels inferior, he acts that way, and no veneer or cover-up or bluff will hide for long this basic feeling. The person who feels he isn’t important, isn’t.

“On the other side, a fellow who really thinks he is equal to the Task, is.”

Talking to yourself in the right way is so important in competitive sport too. In many ways, sports people have a lot in common with those of us who are breaking free to find freedom.

The daughter of a good friend of mine is a case in point. Thirteen-year-old Hannah Gamage is one of the best young tennis players in Britain and has the talent to hit the highest levels. She has, however, two challenges. The first is (inevitably) financing and the second is the mental abilities the sport requires. Just watch the adult professionals playing at Wimbledon or Flushing Meadows and imagine what they must be thinking. Actually you can see what they are thinking. You can see them giving themselves a positive talking to between games. Watch them.

In one of my favourite books on sports psychology, ‘Mind Games,’ the former Olympic athlete, Sally Gunnell, explains her preparation in the call room prior to the 1992 Olympic 400 metre hurdles final.

“All the finalists are in there psyching each other out. I remember Sandra Farmer-Patrick strutting her stuff, moaning about this and that and giving me daggers. I was thinking, ‘Right, I’m in charge here.’ I would give off an aura. I don’t know how I did it, but I was just lying there with my legs up on the wall, saying I was conserving energy. Everyone else would be charging around. But I was thinking: ‘I’ve warmed up, I’ve done everything I can do. There’s nothing else that could get me prepared. I am in total control.’ This is the message I was giving out to everybody.”

Conclusion

We now know that it is essential to have control of your own mind if you want to achieve something worthwhile, such as breaking free to find freedom. Now we need to find the best ways of doing it.

This is something we will develop in a later post on this site.


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In breaking free to find freedom we need confidence and to program ourselves to believe we can do it. This article explains the process.

Originally posted to EzineMark.com

By Brandon JayJones

The art of self-talk.

It’s one of the best kept secrets to “attracting” more of anything you want in life – including money.

The most successful people on this planet – be it movie stars, professional athletes, and business tycoons all have this in common. They have all learned how to “talk” themselves into success – most of the time without even realizing it.

So, what exactly does it mean to “talk” to yourself? How can the rest of us begin applying this secret to “attract” more money, health, and happiness?

The answer is quite simple really. Talking to yourself has to do with the specific commands you give to your brain – stated in the present tense.

Oftentimes these are called “affirmations.” The difference between affirmations and self talk is affirmations are usually very broad-based statements such as:

“I am happy”

“I am successful”

These are all well and good and have tremendous benefit to your success.

Yet, “self-talk” is even more powerful towards programming your mind for success. Self-talk consists of breaking down a goal or improvement you’d like to make in your life and rephrasing every aspect of it in a positive way.

Here’s an example. Let’s say you want to attract more money into your life. You may say to yourself “I now attract more money into my life.”

That’s a good start.

With self-talk we take this even further and begin rephrasing all the “negative” underlying beliefs you have about money.

For instance even if you say “I now attract more money into my life,” deep down you may believe “money is the root of all evil.” The two statements are not in harmony with each other and your results will be less than harmonious.

In order to attract more money you need to find out ALL the beliefs you have about money. And, begin changing them into beliefs move you forward rather than backwards.

For example: “Money is the root of all evil” now becomes “the lack of money is the root of all evil.” “I can never seem to make enough money to get ahead” becomes “I always make enough money to get ahead.”

Are you starting to get the idea?

Now that you’re aware of this principle, you’re going to consciously begin to notice many dis-empowering thoughts come into your head. The key is to catch those beliefs right in the moment and begin turning them around.

For instance, If you find yourself thinking “this won’t work” quickly turn it around to “this will work I know it will.” These new thoughts might feel uncomfortable at first but that is only because they are new.

Be relentless in changing them, and you will see them begin to reshape your reality – oftentimes much sooner than you think. The great part about this process is with a little practice, it becomes an automatic procedure for you. You’ll begin doing it without even noticing it.

You’ll feel much lighter, happier, and more fulfilled in your life when you use the powerful process of self talk. Get ready to start attracting more of what you’ve been wanting all along.

This is just one of the many advanced law of attraction techniques available to you. If you’d like to learn even more of the exact methods 1,000′s of others just like you are using every single day to attract more money, new homes, better relationships, and more health, visit http://www.yourlawofattractionsecrets.com

Articles Source: How to “Talk” Yourself Into Attracting More Success



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This video shows one of the problems of going it alone. Since I have been working to break free from the job market to find freedom, I have had this problem every day……. I wish!




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Kevin Spacey Inspirational (Video)

Nov-12-2010 By admin

This is not specifically useful to anyone breaking free or going it alone but is generally inspiring, so I thought I would post it anyway. Kevin Spacey talking to aspiring actors. Well, I like it.

“There is no prize out there. The only prize is this one and what you feel and what you want to accomplish.

If you can as you start out these what could be lean years, what could be fat years…

I very often watch a lot of young people meander around without any idea about why they are doing what they are doing. I mean to want and to be ambitious and to want to be successful is not enough. That’s just desire. To know what you want, to understand why you are doing it, to dedicate every breath in your body to achieve.

If you feel you have something to give, if you feel your particular talent is worth developing, is worth caring for then there’s nothing you can’t achieve.

You’re going to grow up with your colleagues, you’re going to watch them have success and watch them have failure and you’re going to watch how they deal with it and they can be as much a teacher for you as anybody here or anyone who is privileged enough to come here and speak to you. “

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The Four Prices Of Breaking Free

Nov-11-2010 By admin

You may have realized by now that I have a lot to learn in breaking free from the job market to find freedom and I hope I will continue to do so. There is something I am learning already, however.

To find freedom you have to be prepared to pay the price.

In breaking free you will have to go against the wisdom of the majority of the population. After all, if they believed the same way more would be self dependent and going it alone.

I suppose every worthwhile goal or dream is worth that extra bit of effort and focus and breaking free to find freedom is no exception.

Earlier we explored the idea of persistence and persistence requires you to understand there is a price to pay and keep paying it until you find freedom.

So What Is The Price To Pay?

Of course the price will vary according to whatever the outcome you have chosen to pursue but there are four areas that will be affected.

1. Relationships.

Let’s get the pain out the way first. There will be people close to you who will need to understand what you are doing and why you are doing it.

I pray you have a husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend who understands you well enough to support you in breaking free. Having someone who loves you unconditionally will give you respite when things get tough. He or she will allow you to relax when it is needed.

Unfortunately I never have found someone who loves me for who I am (don’t you feel sorry for me?) but I have been extremely lucky in the second area: friendships.

Good friends who understand you are also very useful too. They are your friends whatever and accept what you are doing.

So why do I consider relationships a price?

If you are focussed on the need to find freedom, you will have less time to maintain such relationships. You will have less time for your spouse and your children and will spend less time down the pub with your friends.

It is possible you might lose a relationship as a result. I hope not but if it seems likely you may make a decision to continue or give up your dreams to maintain the relationship. I am not going to tell you what to do in that situation but I really hope it is not your spouse you have to reconsider.

A friend who does not understand may not be a friend anyway and you can make the decision to see less of that person. Be gentle and firm but keep to your course.

Much of the stress can be removed in any case by discussing it with your friends and family as you start out. Be open and make it clear why you want to break free and find freedom and ask for their support. In this way you can show you do cherish the relationship.

Point out that by investing the time in your venture now you can spend more time with them later.

And they will admire you more for being steadfast rather than giving up when it gets tough.

2. Time.

In breaking free you need to do whatever it takes to get the job done. By going it alone you can only rely on yourself so you need to commit all the time you can to ensure success.

Of course you will need time to relax and exercise but this has to be controlled to make the best use of your work time.

This all means you will have to commit time now to get it back later. It will be inconvenient. As mentioned above, you will lose time with friends and family and you will have little spare time.

You will go out less often (unless for business purposes of course) and non-essential jobs will get done less often. Does the world end if the house gets a little scruffy? No.

For the time being have laser focus on breaking free. Buy your time back.

3. Money

There will be some financial investment needed as you work to find freedom.

Do whatever it takes to chase down your goal. It will be worth understanding early on what is required and you can then plan a budget.

Be careful not to overspend on items or subscriptions not essential to your business. Become money wise and understand your priorities, as you break free. There are often ways to save money and be frugal. For example, if you are working online there is often free software to be found that save you a fortune.

Never be afraid of approaching someone already successful in your field as they might give you some free advice too.

It does mean that the money for luxuries around the home is going to reduce and perhaps the family holiday will be cancelled this year. You will need to concentrate more on your business costs.

In a meeting recently, Sir Alan Sugar asked a group of millionaires how many times they had gone bankrupt in the past. After some discussion they realized the average was 17 times each!

Now I am certainly not saying we need to go bankrupt even once but it does show their financial commitment and the cost required in breaking free.

4. Mistakes

We are brought up to be afraid of making mistakes but if you are going to do anything you are going to make mistakes. It is part of the process you go through to break free.

The price is to make the mistakes and learn by them. I guess the trick is to change them from the price to an asset. Make the mistake and turn it into an education – and try not to make the same mistake again!

Never beat yourself up or worry what others might think if you make a mistake.

Conclusion

The truth is paying the price of success makes you a better person.

It does take guts and a dream and a passion for what you are doing. By breaking free to find freedom you can change your life and those of the people around you. You will then fulfil your role in life by accepting responsibility and improving your corner of the world.

Paying the price of going it alone brings more rewards than you might think.

“Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true”

Leon Joseph Cardinal Suenens (Archbishop of Malines-Brussels 1904 – 1996)

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