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You Talked Yourself Into It

Nov-18-2010 By admin

“The soul attracts that which it secretly harbours; that which it loves, and also that which it fears; it reaches the height of its cherished aspirations; it falls to the level of its unchastened desires – and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own.”

“Every thought-seed sown or allowed to fall into the mind, and to take root there, produces its own, blossoming sooner or later into act, and bearing its own fruitage of opportunity and circumstance. Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bad fruit.”

So wrote one of my favourite authors, James Allen, in his wonderful essay ‘As A Man Thinketh’ at the start of the twentieth century.

In breaking free from the job market to find freedom, as in many other worthwhile endeavours, there is often only one person we can depend upon: ourselves. It makes sense as we are becoming so self dependent that we prepare ourselves for what is ahead.

A couple of days ago an article was posted here to The Break Free Blog on the subject of self-talk and I thought I would develop this important subject.

In another post, we discussed the influence of other people and how that influence can be negative as we attempt to break free. Unfortunately all too often we sabotage our own efforts by not believing in ourselves.

How can we overcome this?

The truth is, in simple terms, the mind is really a super complicated computer and we need to learn to reprogram ourselves.

Well, I have to say this is a subject I know a great deal about as I have previously struggled with my own negative thoughts as I attempt to find freedom. I have often programmed myself to fail.

It is worth knowing a little about the mind first. You will probably we have two parts of the mind: the conscious and the sub-conscious. The conscious mind is our logical, thinking mind where we consider options and make decisions. But it is the sub-conscious that is the more exciting.

The sub-conscious runs all our instinctive programs. It makes us breath and our hearts to beat. It is responsible for all our reflexes. And it processes all the influences, the stimuli, we experience in life. The sub-conscious records absolutely everything we think or experience in life.

The mind is thus like an iceberg; the conscious mind is the small amount we see and the sub-conscious the massive bulk we cannot see.
The fascinating thing is: the sub-conscious is a servant. It does everything the conscious mind tells it. It is the idiotic muscles man behind the gangster.

The important result of this for those of us going it alone is the sub-conscious cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is unreal.

How does this help us? If we tell the sub-conscious something enough times or emphasise something with enough emotion, it will believe it. History is full of examples of people believing something that is just not true. Often it is called ‘propaganda,’ other times ‘spin,’ and other times ‘advertising.’ These examples are clever people taking advantage of the sub-conscious minds of other people.

Towards the end of the Second World War, American soldiers were clearing the Japanese from Pacific islands. On at least one occasion, as the Allied ships approached, the crews could see the islanders throwing themselves off the cliffs in mass suicide. Obviously they were perplexed to see this as they meant the natives no harm The truth soon came out: the departing Japanese had convinced the islanders that the Americans were evil and would rape and kill them. Clearly they would be better off dead.

I could go on giving you hundreds of examples but I will just ask you one question: what do you know about lemmings? I think you will say ‘they throw themselves off cliff en masse.’ Actually no. That was a myth originating in a Disney movie when the lemmings were driven off the cliff as part of the plot. Yet we believe it.

Okay, so what? How does this help us break free?

We all talk to ourselves. Oh yes, we do. And to those of you who just thought ‘I don’t talk to myself,’ that is exactly what you just did.

All too often what we say to ourselves is negative; if anything goes wrong we say ‘you idiot, I knew I would do that,’ for example. That reinforces our program. Our minds say ‘I must be an idiot then so I will act like an idiot.’

So what we need to do is to start telling ourselves we can do it, we can break free, we can find freedom. And this is applicable whatever challenge you are facing.

Yeah, says who?

This is hardly earth-shattering news. Authors have written about self-talk and mind programming for years.

Not only James Allen, but David J. Schwartz has examined this in his amazing book ‘The Magic Of Thinking Big’.

“Thinking DOES make it so. The fellow who thinks he is inferior, regardless of what his real qualification may be, is inferior. For thinking regulates actions. If a man feels inferior, he acts that way, and no veneer or cover-up or bluff will hide for long this basic feeling. The person who feels he isn’t important, isn’t.

“On the other side, a fellow who really thinks he is equal to the Task, is.”

Talking to yourself in the right way is so important in competitive sport too. In many ways, sports people have a lot in common with those of us who are breaking free to find freedom.

The daughter of a good friend of mine is a case in point. Thirteen-year-old Hannah Gamage is one of the best young tennis players in Britain and has the talent to hit the highest levels. She has, however, two challenges. The first is (inevitably) financing and the second is the mental abilities the sport requires. Just watch the adult professionals playing at Wimbledon or Flushing Meadows and imagine what they must be thinking. Actually you can see what they are thinking. You can see them giving themselves a positive talking to between games. Watch them.

In one of my favourite books on sports psychology, ‘Mind Games,’ the former Olympic athlete, Sally Gunnell, explains her preparation in the call room prior to the 1992 Olympic 400 metre hurdles final.

“All the finalists are in there psyching each other out. I remember Sandra Farmer-Patrick strutting her stuff, moaning about this and that and giving me daggers. I was thinking, ‘Right, I’m in charge here.’ I would give off an aura. I don’t know how I did it, but I was just lying there with my legs up on the wall, saying I was conserving energy. Everyone else would be charging around. But I was thinking: ‘I’ve warmed up, I’ve done everything I can do. There’s nothing else that could get me prepared. I am in total control.’ This is the message I was giving out to everybody.”

Conclusion

We now know that it is essential to have control of your own mind if you want to achieve something worthwhile, such as breaking free to find freedom. Now we need to find the best ways of doing it.

This is something we will develop in a later post on this site.


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In breaking free to find freedom we need confidence and to program ourselves to believe we can do it. This article explains the process.

Originally posted to EzineMark.com

By Brandon JayJones

The art of self-talk.

It’s one of the best kept secrets to “attracting” more of anything you want in life – including money.

The most successful people on this planet – be it movie stars, professional athletes, and business tycoons all have this in common. They have all learned how to “talk” themselves into success – most of the time without even realizing it.

So, what exactly does it mean to “talk” to yourself? How can the rest of us begin applying this secret to “attract” more money, health, and happiness?

The answer is quite simple really. Talking to yourself has to do with the specific commands you give to your brain – stated in the present tense.

Oftentimes these are called “affirmations.” The difference between affirmations and self talk is affirmations are usually very broad-based statements such as:

“I am happy”

“I am successful”

These are all well and good and have tremendous benefit to your success.

Yet, “self-talk” is even more powerful towards programming your mind for success. Self-talk consists of breaking down a goal or improvement you’d like to make in your life and rephrasing every aspect of it in a positive way.

Here’s an example. Let’s say you want to attract more money into your life. You may say to yourself “I now attract more money into my life.”

That’s a good start.

With self-talk we take this even further and begin rephrasing all the “negative” underlying beliefs you have about money.

For instance even if you say “I now attract more money into my life,” deep down you may believe “money is the root of all evil.” The two statements are not in harmony with each other and your results will be less than harmonious.

In order to attract more money you need to find out ALL the beliefs you have about money. And, begin changing them into beliefs move you forward rather than backwards.

For example: “Money is the root of all evil” now becomes “the lack of money is the root of all evil.” “I can never seem to make enough money to get ahead” becomes “I always make enough money to get ahead.”

Are you starting to get the idea?

Now that you’re aware of this principle, you’re going to consciously begin to notice many dis-empowering thoughts come into your head. The key is to catch those beliefs right in the moment and begin turning them around.

For instance, If you find yourself thinking “this won’t work” quickly turn it around to “this will work I know it will.” These new thoughts might feel uncomfortable at first but that is only because they are new.

Be relentless in changing them, and you will see them begin to reshape your reality – oftentimes much sooner than you think. The great part about this process is with a little practice, it becomes an automatic procedure for you. You’ll begin doing it without even noticing it.

You’ll feel much lighter, happier, and more fulfilled in your life when you use the powerful process of self talk. Get ready to start attracting more of what you’ve been wanting all along.

This is just one of the many advanced law of attraction techniques available to you. If you’d like to learn even more of the exact methods 1,000′s of others just like you are using every single day to attract more money, new homes, better relationships, and more health, visit http://www.yourlawofattractionsecrets.com

Articles Source: How to “Talk” Yourself Into Attracting More Success



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