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Do Not Listen To The Wrong People

Nov-1-2010 By admin

Science has proved the bumblebee cannot fly. Its body is too bulky and it’s wings too small. The only thing is no one has told the bumblebee.

As a result bumblebees fly every day.

As we are breaking free from our job to find freedom, there will be many people who will tell us what we are doing is wrong, that we should ‘get a nice job’ and stop messing around. After all, ‘who do you think you are? Find freedom? Don’t make me laugh.’

If you listen to them enough you will start to believe them and you will start to believe you cannot fly. That you are wrong to break free: to find freedom.

This, of course, is a load of cobblers. Those who criticize you for going it alone are probably jealous as they did not have the nerve to do the same thing and you might show them to be weak. Disaster.

Secretly they may well be hoping you do make it so you can give them inspiration.

The truth is you would be letting yourself down and so many other people down if you did not do all you could to find freedom and lead the way for others.

Zig Ziglar called this being ‘SNIOP’d.’ SNIOP stands for Susceptible To The Negative Influence Of Others.

One man who adopted this acronym was Morris Goodman. Known as the Miracle Man, Morris was declared dead several times after a horrific airplane crash but managed through sheer strength of will to make a near complete recovery. His story inspired a book and a movie. His recovery was not easy: he had to learn to breathe, speak, eat, and walk again – indeed, all those functions we take for granted. The doctors believed it to be impossible, but not Morris.

Throughout his ordeal, Morris kept by his bed a plaque with the letters ‘SNIOP’ engraved on it. He is now an exceptional public speaker and I have been lucky enough to hear him.

In his book, Morris wrote:

“Studies show that other people’s negative expectations often become self-fulfilling prophecies – teachers, bosses, spouses, parents, doctors – they can lock you in a cage of limits. If you accept these limits, you’ll never go beyond them. But you have the key. Unlock the cage with self-confidence, and you can go as far as you desire.”

If you let those people talk you out of breaking free and you fail to become self dependent you will become like them and you will have achieved nothing. What is even worse is you will have confirmed their negative expectations, so making it even harder for the next person who tries to find freedom.

Of course you need to be able to listen to other people but make sure you know they are worth listening to and you will feel in your heart if they are sincere. Understand their achievements: have they managed to break free? Have they managed to find freedom? Have they got your best interests at heart?

There will be friends who truly are friends. They may not understand what you are doing but will wish you well anyway, encourage you to do your best and believe in you.

If your ‘friends’ demonstrate they do not support you in breaking free, don’t be rude, just smile, thank them and walk away. If necessary spend less time with them until you can show enough success that their opinions no longer count.

And do you know what? Those same critics will see you break free and find freedom and then say ‘I always knew you could do it.’

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