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Getting It All Together

Nov-29-2010 By admin

I am aware that this blog was intended to be a journal by me on my attempts to break free and find freedom from the job market. I have done little of this, really passing on what I have learned, which I am sure is still useful.

Perhaps now I should bring you up to date with the challenges I am finding in going it alone at the moment in the hope you might identify with them and perhaps might find the answers at the same time.

The challenges I am finding are based on that perennial problem – self-discipline.

I am still having challenges getting to bed on time. This hinges on several influences. Firstly, I must not work too late, also I need to avoid eating too late and I do need to find time to relax before going to bed: to wind down. A hot bath often helps I find.

Equally, I am having challenges getting up early enough in the morning. This may not come as a surprise as it is so nice to be self dependent and not have to rush around to go to a job. However, this means I need to discipline myself more to get the work done. Oh dear.

As I have mentioned before, I can avoid using alarm clocks if I allow myself eight hours sleep a night. I find I naturally sleep that long. Mind you, there are temptations to stay in bed a bit longer, especially on cold mornings like they are now and also if I have got to bed too late the night before.

For this reason I have resorted to temporarily using alarm clocks. At present I have one set to bleep at ten at night to tell me I should wind down and relax ready for bed at twelve and the radio comes on at 8.30 in the morning to get me up. This generally works well except I have just worked through the first one now and it is still too easy to lie in bed thinking in the morning!

The other problems I have probably impact on this situation so I will continue.

Once I do get up I have a set morning routine so I can do what needs to be done before I start work.

Bear in mind one of my goals is to have a healthier lifestyle too, so I need sleep and exercise. In the morning therefore I have some set exercises I work to (eventually I would like to add Tai Chi, but one stage at a time), I listen to a hypnosis tape from Paul McKenna to set my thinking for the day (and it does work, I think) and then go for a thirty minute cycle ride before having breakfast and starting work on breaking free.

Well, that’s the idea anyway! I do tend to be slow going through this routine and, again, I think it is influenced by being lax in other areas. I am realising that a weakness in one area can upset the whole routine and remove the sense of urgency once set by the need to be at a job.

In breaking free we need to provide our own discipline or someone else will do it for us – and we won’t find freedom.

In the evening, once the alarm sounds at ten I should have another session of hypnosis, relax, think and meditate and make my way to bed. But too often I work too late so I go to bed still in work mode.

The reason for this is again related to something else. I have mentioned before that I have a ‘base acceptable bottom,’ or a level of work I MUST at least complete every day. This involves publishing a post to each of my four websites each day. I am achieving this I am glad to say but sometimes at the cost of running over my ten o’clock deadline.

The other problem is I am achieving this goal but I now need to do more. Often the posts I publish on breaking free and other subjects are not original but articles or videos from other sites (with the correct backlinks and credits), which is fine but I need to post more original articles of my own. In other words, to improve the quality.

At the same time, I am not moving forward in terms of learning about the websites I use, about online advertising, about more ways of promoting my sites. Equally I am not planning ahead or writing articles for other sites to promote my own. Clearly I need to impose better time discipline as per a previous article on this site or I will not find freedom as I want.

This time discipline must ensure it does not impact on my sleep either. Obviously tiredness would impact on my ability to work at my best.

Another reason for ensuring good time discipline is I want to temporarily start twelve hour working days to move forward. Clearly this needs a better routine.

Another area I am better at now is curiously my food shopping. This may seem a strange consideration but to go shopping during the week disrupts my break free work routine. Saturday is generally my day off (but I do try and get some posts online if I can) so I have been trying to get the shopping done then. Recently I have been achieving this and so minimizing distractions from my goal of breaking free.

There are other specific areas already discussed on this site that I still need to get right – and these also impact on other areas of my drive to find freedom.

As I have missed my goals too often I have let slip the idea of giving myself rewards for work done. This is something I need to work on.

Equally I need to take my breaks at set times. I tend to panic or get too involved in an article and forget to take the break. I do have a timer on my desk which goes off after 60 minutes so I need to get in the habit of jumping up and away from my desk when this goes off so I can have a ten minute break.

As said before, the breaks help me come back to work with a fresh mind.

Not enough breaks can cause me to spend too long in bed on having lunch.

Conclusion

The truth is the whole process of breaking free to find freedom can seem overwhelming. I need to refocus on my goal, which is to break free and find freedom.

One of the advantages of writing a blog like this is I have discovered what it is I need to do. The articles on this site really have given me some ideas about how to find freedom. I hope they have helped you too.

The key is finding how to apply what I have learned regularly and consistently.

That is an interesting point and one I have not seen mentioned very often; how to fit into your daily routine all the techniques required to become self dependent and successful without becoming overwhelmed.

There, I have set out my situation in fairly frank terms. One of my priorities now is simply to earn money so I can find freedom and not return to the job market next year. Solving the above challenges should ensure my success.

I will come back to these problems in later posts on breaking free to find freedom and am interested in your comments regarding your ideas and experiences.



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The Four Prices Of Breaking Free

Nov-11-2010 By admin

You may have realized by now that I have a lot to learn in breaking free from the job market to find freedom and I hope I will continue to do so. There is something I am learning already, however.

To find freedom you have to be prepared to pay the price.

In breaking free you will have to go against the wisdom of the majority of the population. After all, if they believed the same way more would be self dependent and going it alone.

I suppose every worthwhile goal or dream is worth that extra bit of effort and focus and breaking free to find freedom is no exception.

Earlier we explored the idea of persistence and persistence requires you to understand there is a price to pay and keep paying it until you find freedom.

So What Is The Price To Pay?

Of course the price will vary according to whatever the outcome you have chosen to pursue but there are four areas that will be affected.

1. Relationships.

Let’s get the pain out the way first. There will be people close to you who will need to understand what you are doing and why you are doing it.

I pray you have a husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend who understands you well enough to support you in breaking free. Having someone who loves you unconditionally will give you respite when things get tough. He or she will allow you to relax when it is needed.

Unfortunately I never have found someone who loves me for who I am (don’t you feel sorry for me?) but I have been extremely lucky in the second area: friendships.

Good friends who understand you are also very useful too. They are your friends whatever and accept what you are doing.

So why do I consider relationships a price?

If you are focussed on the need to find freedom, you will have less time to maintain such relationships. You will have less time for your spouse and your children and will spend less time down the pub with your friends.

It is possible you might lose a relationship as a result. I hope not but if it seems likely you may make a decision to continue or give up your dreams to maintain the relationship. I am not going to tell you what to do in that situation but I really hope it is not your spouse you have to reconsider.

A friend who does not understand may not be a friend anyway and you can make the decision to see less of that person. Be gentle and firm but keep to your course.

Much of the stress can be removed in any case by discussing it with your friends and family as you start out. Be open and make it clear why you want to break free and find freedom and ask for their support. In this way you can show you do cherish the relationship.

Point out that by investing the time in your venture now you can spend more time with them later.

And they will admire you more for being steadfast rather than giving up when it gets tough.

2. Time.

In breaking free you need to do whatever it takes to get the job done. By going it alone you can only rely on yourself so you need to commit all the time you can to ensure success.

Of course you will need time to relax and exercise but this has to be controlled to make the best use of your work time.

This all means you will have to commit time now to get it back later. It will be inconvenient. As mentioned above, you will lose time with friends and family and you will have little spare time.

You will go out less often (unless for business purposes of course) and non-essential jobs will get done less often. Does the world end if the house gets a little scruffy? No.

For the time being have laser focus on breaking free. Buy your time back.

3. Money

There will be some financial investment needed as you work to find freedom.

Do whatever it takes to chase down your goal. It will be worth understanding early on what is required and you can then plan a budget.

Be careful not to overspend on items or subscriptions not essential to your business. Become money wise and understand your priorities, as you break free. There are often ways to save money and be frugal. For example, if you are working online there is often free software to be found that save you a fortune.

Never be afraid of approaching someone already successful in your field as they might give you some free advice too.

It does mean that the money for luxuries around the home is going to reduce and perhaps the family holiday will be cancelled this year. You will need to concentrate more on your business costs.

In a meeting recently, Sir Alan Sugar asked a group of millionaires how many times they had gone bankrupt in the past. After some discussion they realized the average was 17 times each!

Now I am certainly not saying we need to go bankrupt even once but it does show their financial commitment and the cost required in breaking free.

4. Mistakes

We are brought up to be afraid of making mistakes but if you are going to do anything you are going to make mistakes. It is part of the process you go through to break free.

The price is to make the mistakes and learn by them. I guess the trick is to change them from the price to an asset. Make the mistake and turn it into an education – and try not to make the same mistake again!

Never beat yourself up or worry what others might think if you make a mistake.

Conclusion

The truth is paying the price of success makes you a better person.

It does take guts and a dream and a passion for what you are doing. By breaking free to find freedom you can change your life and those of the people around you. You will then fulfil your role in life by accepting responsibility and improving your corner of the world.

Paying the price of going it alone brings more rewards than you might think.

“Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true”

Leon Joseph Cardinal Suenens (Archbishop of Malines-Brussels 1904 – 1996)

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